One may have brilliant ideas and visions, but that’s of no good if it doesn’t reach out to the right audience. Intelligent people often shy away from expressing themselves due to lack of confidence in their communication skills. Even in day to day life, numerous people of all age group fall behind in their field of interest for this reason.
Well if you are one of the many, then worry no more. These simple effective tips will help you communicate better –
Body speaks the most.
You tell your partner that you are ready for an open conversation, yet your eyes haven’t gotten off your phone? What does that indicate? Even if you are genuinely interested in the topic and paying attention, the person in front will surely interpret it the other way round. It’s extremely rude as well to not entirely dedicate to a person giving you his time and words.
Proper gestures are also a very effective way of getting your ideas and thoughts through to the audience. While addressing a small group or a few people, you could use smaller gestures and while addressing to large audiences, large gestures are necessary. These gestures help you keep the connection with people listening to you.
Avoid Um, Ah and like…
Although these unnecessary fill-ups come out unintentionally while trying to keep up conversations, their negative contributions cannot be neglected. By making conscious efforts to cut them out, you will appear more confident and persuasive. In the beginning, you might find the silences awkward, but with time and practice your sentence deliveries will become flawless.
Prepare a speech, always.
No matter how well versed you are with the topic, if asked to speak in front hundred eyes, you will surely fumble. So better be prepared. Before addressing in any big or small occasions, have your thoughts and ideas clearly. Prepare the sequence, the fill-ins, and be ready for all possible questions.
Immensely popular leaders with a bagful of experience also prepare before any kind of ceremony. They hire special workers to prepare their speeches. Even stand-up comedians who are considered most instantaneous in their kind of work have to do extensive preparations before stage shows.
Look into the eyes.
Confidence and connection are the fuels of effective communication, and looking directly into the eyes of the listener checks off both these aspects. Many great and fluent speakers are often caught staring at the walls or ceiling during their presentations, which cuts them off from the audience. Looking into someone’s eyes is the best way of transferring your emotions to them. No matter how perfect your voice and delivery might be without proper connection your audience will never be able to experience the truth behind words.
Stay away from irrelevant stories.
Sometimes by firmly sticking to the flow of conversation, people tend to divert paths and hop into irrelevant stories. Without any doubt, stories are great ways to keep the listeners engaged. But in reality, irrelevant stories can confuse the audience and the real topic of discussion may vanish from their minds by the end. Hence, before speaking up, map all the information in the back of your brain so irrelevant things do not come out of the mouth.
Starting is easy, but keeping the flow is tough. The reason behind is that we are all busy searching for opportunities to speak. We have too much to say but no patience to hear. In order to keep the other person interested, keep them engaged. Asking questions is a great way to do so.
Also in between your turns of speaking, ask them about their views and opinions. This way even if you run out of ideas, the other person can carry it forward.
The right pace and pitch.
When we are new to a language, it’s a natural thought that speaking fast will cover up the mistakes. However, to the listeners, it is an obvious sign of nervousness. In contrast, speaking at an extremely slow place can leave the audience bored and sleepy. Therefore, it is important to find the right balance that works for you. The best way to fight this issue is by remaining relaxed. When relaxed, the right pace will naturally come to you.
Another struggle is finding the appropriate volume and tone. Too loud or too quiet? You never know. But the trick is – it depends on situations. When addressing to a large number of people, be loud enough to keep the entire room engaged. While in small groups speak softly. Rotating this system the other way is an open invitation to disasters. Secondly, use dynamics in your voice. These are the ways to express emotions. Remember, robots speak in one tone, not humans!
Power of words.
Words are the simplest units of conversation. Hence if you don’t get the simple pronunciations, grammar and meaning right, there is no escape. Asthma becomes azma and Wednesday becomes wenz-day, when you speak! English is a crazy language, and in order to master the art of speaking; reading is not effective enough. You have to constantly listen and say the words out loud.
All the problems related to pronunciations and grammar can be swiftly solved by listening to songs and watching movies in the new language. This way you get the grab of the language in all aspects. Moreover, don’t just randomly pop in words with no clue about the meaning. It could change the entire context. Rather use simple words than making a complete fool of yourself in the process of displaying smartness. As they rightly say, “Better be safe than sorry.”
- Listen, don’t just hear!
“The biggest communication problem is we don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply.”
Good speakers are always the best listeners. Listening carefully to other’s way of speaking and expressing can help you learn excessively about communication skills.
Plus, communication is never a one-way thing. While conversing, if you are the only one speaking then there is definitely something wrong. Listening boosts conversation. Don’t just superficially hear their words while quietly waiting for your turn to speak. Rather show interest, pay attention and give constructive ideas. This makes your partner will also indulge into the discussion.
Practice, Practice and Practice.
Most important of all, communication skills are not inherited talents. The only short cut to success is – Practice.
Speak, listen, learn and repeat. Don’t be ashamed of opening your mouth if you are a newbie to a foreign language. You will gradually develop. To begin with, adopt the new language in every aspect of life.
For example, if you want to speak flawless English then – think in English, pray in English, talk to your parents in English, watch English channels, listen to English songs, watch English movies and use every little chance to stay connected with English.
Follow these tips and pour your heart out, whenever required. Happy expressing!