A life that revolves around diapers and sleepless nights is somehow synonymous with having a kid, which makes the idea of being a parent unappealing. However, there are still people who love to have kids despite such reasons, thus making us wonder and ask the question, ”why?”. Why are there people who are ready to trade their career life just to have a baby in their lives?
Although accidental pregnancies happen in our world, people plan and prepare themselves first before having a child and starting a family. What are their exceptional reasons to have one?
1. New life for you to experience
No, it’s not being a literal new person but having a new chapter of your life to begin and experience anew. Maybe you’ve grown tired of life full of parties and gossips and you want to settle down and have a family. Having a child can give you a new life and even a new group of friends to talk about how to raise children and how to do better as parents.
2. The best thing in the world is to hold a baby
Everyone who has held a baby will definitely agree with this.
There will always be a time for couples when they would want to have, love and hold a child from their blood and flesh. Even the person with a great career can trade their career life just to have a kid.
3. An innocent baby can strengthen a relationship
A marriage is a partnership between the couple, and a child can help and motivate each partner to be their best version as well as to do better for their child. A baby isn’t just a new addition to the relationship but a new chapter for the family and to discover and make beautiful memories together.
4. You have a heir of your genes
This is probably one of the less-known reasons to have a kid, but people actually want babies to have someone to pass their genes on. A journalist named Ritwik Ray experienced this, thus making him decide to get married to continue their family genes until the next generation.
5. A new reason to look forward into the future
To have a child isn’t all pleasure and happiness. There are also responsibilities and sacrifices. Once you have a kid, you will always have to plan for the future, not only for yourself but for your kid as well. You have the responsibility not just to provide for your child but also to help and mold him to become a good person in the future.
6. A meaningful reason to engage in sex
An act is more fulfilling to do if you’re doing it with a purpose. You might have tried all the positions and everything you have watched and read, yet you’re not satisfied. The reason might be because you’re doing the deed without a purpose or for wrong purposes. However, doing sex to have a child is more satisfying. You are also not afraid of accidental pregnancy because you actually want to have one. There’s no need for holding back and more reasons to have more sex.
7. You will discover yourself more
This may sound cliche but motherhood is indeed a life-changing event in a mother’s life. You will realize and learn many things; how vast your love is, how your priorities in life have changed, and how you were able to do the things you can’t imagine that you could do before. It is definitely a choice to have a child in life and this may become another reason for us to aspire to be a better person not only for ourselves but also for our family.
8. New topic to talk about
After several years of marriage, you and your partner may run out of new topics to talk about, but a baby may bring spark for a new conversation about diapers and formula. The topic will progressively change as the infant grows. You and your partner will have a lot to talk with, especially with every first of your baby achieves.
9. Experience unconditional love
One of the most wonderful things on earth is unconditional love and this may only be shared with your children. The love from children is innocent and pure.
The love you feel and give to your child is not the love you feel for other people. The fact that you can experience this love is enough reason to have children of your own.
10. To mend mistakes from the past
You may experience living in a toxic home or growing up with abusive parents. You don’t want the same thing to happen to your children. Giving your child better life than yours is enough closure for yourself. You may not correct your parents’ mistakes, but the fact that you could do far better than them may be enough closure you can give to yourself.
11. You don’t have to die lonely
The thought that you’ll die alone is quite sad and terrifying, having someone to be by your side while you’re preparing for the last breath of your life is reassuring for your part.
12. Understand the meaning of parenting
You learn what parenting means by reading articles, magazines and vlogs but experiencing it first hand is another thing. You will gain more wisdom when you experience being a parent, a reason to bear a child of your own.