The most unfavorable and the worst sort of flub anyone could do is cheat. This shouldn’t even possibly be the last option on anyone’s mind. Is your boyfriend/girlfriend cheating on you? Well, are you absolutely sure of it? If yes, then there’s no need for you to hyperventilate. I understand that this is probably the most disturbing phase in your life, but then you’ll have to handle it in a mature way in order to get to the crux of the situation.
You’ve just found out that your partner is cheating on you and you’re absolutely astonished. Your state of mind does not allow you to take your relationship with him/her forward. This is highly expected out of you and this is the most mature decision to make. And so, in order to handle it, here’s how you should take this blow:
10. TALK TO HIM/HER.
This is the least you could do. Communicating with that person can help you win over any suspicion you have. It is imperative that once you talk it out, things might not work out, but they definitely will take a different shape. You would know what the truth is and you will be hell-bound to face it. And once you’ve found out that your better half is cheating on you, then you make your move and be rock solid to move on.
Sometimes, you don’t get the opportunity to talk to your better half. Regardless, make sure that you have your own ways of finding out the truth. What lies behind those eyes and that mask he wears when he’s with you, you have all the right to know what you’re in for.
So, if that person doesn’t show any interest in sharing something with you, might as well find it out for yourself.
8. TALK TO THE PERSON HE/SHE IS CHEATING ON YOU WITH.
Once the above mentioned tasks are done, it is recommended that you speak to that guy/girl your better half is cheating on you with. Remember, don’t get too hyper or aggressive. Chances are that even he/she must not be knowing that the person they’re with is dating you.
So, talk it out and uncover the truth.
7. YOU MAYBE AT FAULT TOO.
Seldom, your better half doesn’t get any space or some time of their own. They need to be alone for some time and this, you need to understand. It is understandable that you want to spend all your time with them, but at the same time, it is highly probable that you’re destroying their love for you.
You can be at fault too. Question yourself first as to why your better half had to come to this conclusion.
This is one solid way of finding out. Of course, it involves a lot of talking but at the same time, you have to be patient and listen to what your significant half has to say. And while you’re talking, bring up this topic. Talk to them about what they expect from this relationship and what they would like to do to take it forward.
You would get your answer because soon you’ll realize that they’re trying to cover up and find excuses.
5. WHAT THEY DO.
If you’re completely convinced that they’re cheating on you, then this is what happens:
There’s no connection between you two.
There are fights for no reason.
There’s no time for each other.
Communication is minimal.
Things don’t work out.
All these things are bound to happen and when you’re ready, confront your partner. Question them as to why you two are not able to make this relationship work and take it where it should go. Don’t tell him/her that it’s because of them that all this is happening. Otherwise usually, things won’t fall on any conclusion.
This is different from what had been discussed above. You’ve just found out that your partner is cheating on you and you’re still outraged by it. This is what you need to do. Calm yourself down and slowly start parting ways with them. If they have to, they will understand that you’ve found out. Your importance in their life with suddenly spring up and they’ll realize what they’ve lost.
So, keep going till the space between you two keeps increasing and finally, they surrender.
3. DON’T HYPERVENTILATE
A: *Bangs open the door and starts screaming.* You’ve been cheating on me?
A: *screaming* Well, say something! I just found out that you’ve been a disloyal partner and all this while I thought you weren’t one of those!
B: *still speechless*
A: *BREAKS EVERYTHING IN THE HOUSE AND STARTS THROWING THINGS*
Please avoid that conversation. In fact, do not be either of them. Perhaps you already know that your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on you. So, if you can, why not talk about it instead of pouring your lungs out on him/her? It is a waste of time and you will not realize that you’re simply undermining your efforts.
2. BLAME GAME.
To play the ‘blame game’ is a piece of cake. Literally, you could effortlessly put the blame on your better half for cheating on you and he/she can put the blame on you for not giving him/her space. This just doesn’t come to an end. Call a truce and let yourself realize that by throwing away your time on blaming him/her, you’re simply going back to square one. Nothing can change the fact that your partner cheated on you with someone else. Blaming them is an understatement. It is sure as hell their fault, but make sure they realize that themselves and not you making them.
1. HOW OFTEN?
So, since we end up talking to them about how all this happened, there are chances that it wasn’t just once that your better half had committed such a disgusting mistake. While you’re talking, find out how many times they had cheated on you. Get the truth out of them and also ask them why they did so. And as already mentioned, try to find out what went wrong with you. Chances are that you’re not at fault. And at the same time, your partner just blames you for everything. In case you want to take this relationship forward, make sure you’re the one fulfilling his/her sexual desires or his/her wants and needs. It shouldn’t go to someone as because this is as important a part of your relationship as trust us.
Sometimes in relationships, both sides lose interest. Cheating is the most outrageous mistake to make and there’s absolutely no excuse for it. There are times when we feel like ending a relationship and when so, speak up. Lying, cheating or finding excuses will never be the right decisions to make.
There are thousands of relationships that have no life at all because they stop growing. Therefore, make sure you’re at least there for your partner to fulfill their wants and are not wasting your time with them. However, if you feel like your relationship has lost its direction, then stop then and there. Do not lie or cheat.