Becoming a parent is a once in a lifetime experience. It is a wonderful feeling. Holding your infant in your arms gives you the supreme feeling of all. With a bundle of joy, it even leads to a package of responsibilities. Especially with the passing years when your child starts growing up you need to act all the more responsible. You being their guardian, they look up to you for almost everything. Being a parent is not an easy task. You have to be responsible for your child. You can’t be infallible if you’re a good parent. They reflect you. Successful parenting requires more than providing for the physical needs of one’s children. It means being committed to their developmental well-being and overall success. If we talk of now, the generation gap between parents and the children makes things all the more difficult. It becomes really tough to be a good parent. So whatever ways you may choose towards parenting there are certain qualities that are a compulsion for you to possess. Lacking those leads to more complicated situations. Have a look at these qualities and inculcate them in case you lack any because these will help you become good parents.
Trust, the name itself suggests a lot of complication. Trust is the threshold of every relationship. You being parents must trust your children. Lack of trust may lead to a lot of arguments or misunderstandings. When your child is in his or her teens, they are at a phase where anything said or done against them invokes them to fight back. Therefore do not be suspicious of your children in any situation. Trust them freely. The values that you have imbibed in them will not lead them to do anything wrong.
This is another major quality that you must possess as a parent. Understanding leads to a healthy and smooth relationship between a parent and a child. You should be so much approachable that your children can talk their hearts out in front of you. Take care to assure your children that you think that what they say is important.They can discuss all their problems with you without being fearful. Many times it happens that parents don’t understand their children and simply make the child feel reluctant in expressing themselves. This is a negative point. It affects the child mentally. Therefore maintain a balance in your relationship.
Being parents you are the only support for the children. Children look up to their parents for everything. From childhood, they seek support from you. In whatever they do, you should stand by them to let them not feel alone. Especially when children grow up, for their future decisions too, parents must act supportive towards them rather than imposing your own decisions over them.
This is a unique as well as an important quality. At some or the other point in life, you have to learn to compromise for your children. Life is incomplete without them. There comes a time when you have to accept things as they are and compromise a bit to move on in life. Be it financially or in any other way to build a secure future for your children you should be that much responsible to give up what it takes.
Parents are the first friends of children. Before entering school, parents are the only one a child talks to. But as they grow up too you must be careful enough to be frank with them. You should let them open up to you. They should feel comfortable in talking to you about anything that they are curious about. You being parents should be the best of all friends of your children. You should be the first ones they approach for any kind of problem they face.
Encouragement is the first and foremost thing a parent must do. Life brings many failures but learning to cope with them and being encouraged to move on is necessary. This is what you have to do for your children. This goes a long way to boost the confidence and well being of your children. Encourage them to try new things and explore their talents. Your encouragement may lead them to do great things. At the same time if you are discouraging it leaves the child disheartened.
A parent’s love and care determine eventually how a child grows up and how a child will eventually parent. Being loved by your parents make you feel important and gives you the inspiration to do something worthwhile in life. It becomes a necessity for parents to show their love and care towards their children. Depriving your child of the love they deserve is no less than a criminal offense. Love directs your children towards the right path. Tell them you love them. Everyone likes to be loved and given importance. Parents must keep it in mind to never let the child feel unwanted or not loved. This might lead to show behavioral changes in them.
3. A Good teacher
It is very well said that parents are the first teachers. All that you teach your child from the childhood itself nurtures their upbringing. You need to be a good teacher. You have to teach everything to your child in such a way that it makes them sensible enough to deal with odd situations. Be assertive and kind when pointing out what they have done wrong. Children should be very familiar with the consequences of their actions. Always remember your values can be seen in your children. Therefore be careful while handling them.
Patience is another important quality which every parent must possess. Whether you are the mom or the dad you need to learn to be patient. Dealing with kids can get stressful at times. But do not give up, your parents have dealt with you too no matter how hard it was for them. You have to learn to calm down and handle situations. Taking decisions in a haste may lead to problems. You have to understand your children too.
1. Accept changes
We all are humans and owing to that we make many mistakes. As parents too you might end up making mistakes but do not avoid them. You should know what you have to change within yourself and when. Don’t allow your determination to become a good parent prevent you from being one. Make changes for the better. Nobody is perfect and being a perfect parent is also just a myth. All you should know is where you are going wrong and then implement changes for yourself.
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This is an amazing post on the issue of parenting. More power to your elbow.
Its really wonderful & all parents should follow these…
You got me when you said that it’s important to be patient to become a good parent because dealing with kids can cause stress. With that in mind, I don’t think that I’m ready to be a mother just yet. I easily get annoyed with kids, and I don’t want to hear their noise at all when I’m at home. Since I’m on my 2nd term of pregnancy, I’ll find a late-term abortion facility. Thanks!